If you’re asking yourself this question or typing it in google, chances are, you’re either pregnant or thinking about becoming pregnant. 

Before having a baby, there are many things to consider, from childcare to financial resources to your health and even your partner’s health and mindset. Having a partner on board will make things a lot easier, but the truth is, no one will ever be fully ready for a baby. 

Yes, you can have a game plan, or as they say, your ducks in a row, but having a baby is more than just being financially stable. You must have time, patience, and understanding for your new baby, especially yourself. As much of a planner as you may think you are, your new baby will destroy all your plans and self-confidence if you cannot adapt to them. 

Some babies are born with conditions that need more attention and care. Some are more sensitive than others, and some speak later in life. Some have an attachment to their parents, making it difficult to leave them with family or a caretaker, and others may be so independent you would think they don’t even need you in their life. My point is your new baby may need more help and support than another baby, which is fine as long as you can adapt to your baby. All we can do as a parent is hope and pray for a healthy baby and NEVER compare our child to another child.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself

1. Are you and your partner both aligned about having a baby?

2. Are you financially prepared or making changes to become financially prepared?

3. What is your job’s maternity policy?

4. Will you or your partner be able to take time off or have a caretaker you TRUST watch over the baby when the baby is young or sick?

5. Are you ready to sacrifice time, money, and energy?

6. What values do you want to instill in your child?

7. Is your relationship with your partner in good standing to have a baby?